Choosing adoption for your child can be a difficult decision. This is true even if you believe that it is the best option for all involved, whether that’s because you don’t feel ready to be a parent, or don’t have enough financial stability to raise a child, or any other reason.
Unfortunately, there are several misconceptions about adoption, the biggest being the idea that once a parent chooses this option, they will never see the child again. The reality, however, it that there are some types of arrangements that do allow a birth parent to be an active part of their child’s life, even if another person or family is the one caring for him or her full-time.
If you are not comfortable with either parenting or abortion, adoption can provide you with peace of mind knowing that your child is taken care of by a loving, supportive family. And while that does not necessarily remove all stress from the situation, there is help available to you to guide you throughout the process.
Before making a final choice, it is highly recommended that you take your time and decide why you think this option is the correct choice to make. Each person’s situation is unique, making it important to weigh all of the pros and cons.
There are three primary types of adoptions: open, semi-open, and closed.
Open adoptions allow for a birth parent to have regular contact with the child and his or her adoptive parents. In addition, an open adoption allows the birth parent to meet and talk with potential adoptive parents before selecting the parents who will ultimately adopt the child.
In semi-open adoptions, contact is limited between the birth parent and the child, or his or her adoptive parents. Most of the communication is done through an adoption agency or another third party.
Closed adoptions allow for only minimal contact between a birth parent and the adoptive parents. There is no communication between the birth parent and the child.
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